advice please!?!?

Have you experimented with your own body? You need to touch your self, know what feels good. Which spots make you excited. I suggest that for every woman. Also, it sounds like both of you are putting a lot of emphasis on your having an . The pressure will only make it worse, because you are worrying how he is going to feel if he can't make you . So if you are worried about that, you are not able to enjoy the act it self.